A little competition never hurt anyone right? Wrong…
While it’s completely natural for most people to feel a sense of competition here and there, it too often happens between friends. As a woman, its hard not to compare yourself to the other women around you. Unfortunately in my case, the women around me most also happen to be my best friends. Comparing things like clothes, beauty, hair, and style are really only minimalist, trivial things and usually aren’t enough to encourage actual competition.
But what do you do when the comparisons start to happen with bigger, more important components of life such as school or college applications? This is where it gets tricky. Meeting your best friends in college or university also means there is a high chance they are in the same program as you. While this can be a positive thing (having friends in your classes, sharing notes, having good partners for group projects), it can also be not so positive.
Going beyond the competition that comes with college applications, what do you do when you and your bestie also have the same dreams, goals, and career path? In this case, it becomes EXTREMELY hard not to get competitive.
Here are some examples of NORMAL thoughts that might go through your head:
- How could she apply to the same program as me, its MY dream not HERS.
- What if she gets in and I don’t?
- What if she becomes successful and I’m stuck waiting tables my whole life?
- What a b*tch.
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